Loving failure and experimenting with your life!

Let’s assume you have a good idea of what you would like to do with your life. You have done as much research as possible about following your new path, but you find you just cannot get started.

Probably the two main reasons (there are more than two) you cannot get started are firstly,  you want to be one hundred percent sure the choice your making is the right one before you begin; and secondly, you do not want to fail.

What if I told you that you will never be one hundred percent sure that you have made the right decision, and what if I told you that there is a good possibility that you will fail many times when following your purpose.

I am following my purpose presently because I have decided to continue along this path despite extreme doubt, and regardless of how many times I have failed.

Our comfort zone discourages risk and fears failure. Successful individuals have become experts at handling and living with doubt and failure.

Individuals who want guarantees before they try something new will be waiting a very long time.

The best way I know how to overcome the negative thoughts associated with doubt and fear of failure is to view your own life as an experiment. We all know that Thomas Edison failed over a thousand times before he perfected the life bulb; imagine if he gave up after the one hundredth attempt?

The reality is that you will never know if a course of action is the right one unless you have experienced that course of action. It is in the DOING that we learn. Only then can we understand if we have made the right choice.

I have been experimenting with my life off and on for a very long time. The irony is that the worst part of my life was a period of about ten years where I stopped experimenting. (Needless to say, my life did not change much in this time.)

Twelve months ago I moved our entire family to a small rural community. My experiment was to see if living in a smaller community had a positive effect on our family’s work/life balance. Living in a small community had both advantages and disadvantages. For business reasons we had to move back to our busy coastal location. While it was stressful for our family having to move twice in under a year, this experiences and the friends we made during the time, was something I am eternally grateful for. Some individuals may have said that our experimental move to the country failed. I do not see it that way. I grew spiritually during this time and made some lifelong friends in the process.

I have failed many times in my life however it is through experimenting and failing that I have learnt what works and what does not work for my life.

If you hate your job and think you might be happier in another job, may I suggest you just try and see how it goes? If you do not like the new job, then great, you have learnt something about yourself.

Who cares what others are saying about you, they are not living your life. My father succeeded and failed many times in business. I admire him greatly because he was never afraid to try something new and take a risk.

Parents, friends and families will convince you not to experiment and that failure comes at too high a price. I can assure you, not experimenting with your life comes at an even higher price.

God did not create you to live a comfortable safe existence.

Do not settle for a boring comfortable life, start experimenting today, and look forward to failure.

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