I’m sure at some point in your life you have felt loneliness. It may have been an extended period of being single after the breakup of a long term partnership or it may have been the death of a loved one.
It is a given that if you are human you have experienced firsthand the effects of loneliness. Clinical tests have shown repeatedly that for the majority of the population too much time alone can lead to depression.
You don’t have to be alone to feel loneliness
There is another state of loneliness that many of us suffer from but it has nothing to do with being left alone or having no one to socialise with. This loneliness is internal and it has everything to do with what is going on inside an individual: mentally, emotionally and spiritually.
Why do we like to watch movies with friends and family?
It is interesting that most of us like to go to a cinema and watch a movie with our partner, friends or children. The strange part is we cannot talk or engage with each other in the cinema while we are watching the movie (although some try).
So why not just go to the cinema on our own all the time? The reason is simple. We like to share experiences with our close friends and family. This can then be shared after the movie and we can discuss the movie in more detail. This is how we connect and relate with other spiritual beings in this world.
This human need for a shared experience has a lot to do with the loneliness we feel when we discover God (awakening) for the first time or discover our spiritual purpose. If your friends and family who surround you are not going through the same transformation then how can they share or understand what you are going through?
This feeling of not being understood or not being able to share with loved ones can cause a feeling of isolation that results in a feeling of deep loneliness.
I have felt this deep feeling of isolation and loneliness many times in my life and it is usually accompanied by a deeper realization of God or my own purpose. During these times I find it very hard to be around other individuals who are not going through the same transformation even though I love them dearly.
The exception is when you are lucky enough to have friends who have gone through or are going through a similar transformation however this is extremely rare.
Loneliness and isolation is a normal part of the process of awakening your spirit and discovering your purpose.
Isolation and loneliness forces us to look inward then outward to God for help. By looking inward we gain a deeper understanding of ourselves and what drives us at a deeper spiritual level. It is here that we learn that the outside world can never solve our problems, and this is where God calls us and the awakening can begin.
Many individuals cannot cope with this period of isolation or loneliness, so the quest for their best self is lost and the individual returns to the noise of the world. If you are always surrounded by friends and family you will find it very hard to tune out the noise and receive the quiet guiding hand of God.
God reveals himself to use when we have a quiet mind and this is normally when we are alone.
Be prepared to be rejected
When you are following your spiritual purpose and placing God at the centre of your life, many of your close friends and family will not understand what you are going through.
This will add to your sense of isolation. In fact many of your close friends and family may do everything they can to bring you back to your old self. You must remember that everyone develops differently in relation to spiritual growth and discovering their purpose. Do not expect them to understand what you are going through.
You are no better or worse than anyone else just different.
You are not alone
Remember that while you may feel isolated and alone at times you are not alone. God is always with you and there are many individuals feeling the same sense of spiritual isolation you are feeling at this moment.
Loneliness and a sense of isolation are a natural part of the spiritual life and is a sign that you are growing closer to God and your purpose. Eventually you will connect with other like- minded individuals and your sense of isolation and loneliness will reduce.
Until then, be patient and see this time of isolation and loneliness as a blessing.